If I didn’t know to be afraid, would I have a problem speaking my mind?
Truth for me is about genuinely listening and understanding. Hearing the truth of what someone or something is showing me without layering my thoughts, assumptions and expectations over their actions, words and behavior. More, it’s about genuinely listening to the desires of myself and understanding the deep truth of what I know I need.
This analysis of truth has led me on a deeper path of inquiry. If you’re intrigued, I invite you to ask yourself these questions too.
- What actions and thoughts do I let consume my time?
- The negativity that I let creep into my life, the people I let fill the precious space in my thoughts – are they deserving?
- Have I shown love and care towards the people I wish to receive love and care from?
- Have I been shown love and care by the people I seek to love and care for?
Be Honest. Be Honest. Be Honest.
Truth sometimes means speaking up + being harsh. Truth sometimes means walking away from relationships and situations that don’t make us feel good, or heard, or valued. Sometimes it means walking away from situations that don’t make us feel the way we want to feel or those that we want to work so well, but just don’t. It requires facing what we know deep inside. Scary shit, I know. I know. But authenticity + honesty requires we face it. A teacher once told me: A phony is someone who knows and does nothing. When we speak from a place of love, all we can do is hope that it shines through in our truth. We are only responsible for our truth and only we are responsible for that truth.
Nurturing myself is my truth. The spirit I have is my most powerful resource; my most powerful, incredible and most loving relationship. Your spirit is your most powerful resource + most incredible relationship, too. Strengthen it. Love it.
In order to strengthen this relationship to truth, I commit to:
- Listen more. To actively work hard to not assume what I do not know. I will assume nothing. I will ask more questions because I want to know, I want to love and I want to cultivate relationships of warmth and openness.
- Stop, evaluate and truly understand why certain topics, people and events are taking up space in my life and what that means for my personal journey.
- Validate the feelings I have by recognizing where they come from, accepting what they are and knowing they are the result of my most loving friend – myself.